What Leaders Really Do

John Maxwell said, “Leadership is not a position. It is influence.” So regardless of your position, you are a leader. And this is for you!

In today’s article, let me share with you seven things that leaders do.

One, leaders aspire for something greater. They do not just manage what is available in the present, they desire for something better. They long for something more – more that is good. They cast a vision, a dream that one day shall come to pass. As they do, they share this vision to the people around them. This brings us to the next thing they must do.

Two, leaders build trust and teams. If people follow a leader simply because of his position, it won’t last and it will be intensely difficult. The leader must be able to build a relationship with his followers. He must be able to communicate the goodness of his vision. He must be able to enlist the team to his dream. He must be able to build that much needed trust through his words, actions, and the way he live his life.

Three, leaders create a culture of collaboration. While collaboration has been a buzz word for quite some time, competition is still ingrained in our culture. It is still very evident in our way of life. We have been told the fallacy that somebody has to lose for someone else to win. The truth is we can all win. Everybody in the team can win together. Thus, leaders must be able to create such new culture of collaboration.

Four, leaders deliver rightful results. Leaders are chosen, appointed or elected because something has to be done. A team or a group of people is being lead for a purpose. There is an expectation of results. And leaders bear that burden to bring the results. With this is the expectation of many challenges that shall come. Times will get tough. The going gets difficult. But the leader shall take the lead to deliver rightful results with his capacity and character.

Five, leaders exemplify goodness and greatness. Part of aspiring for something greater and building the trust is living as an example. The leader has to be the embodiment of goodness and greatness. The leader has to be the role model. The leader has to be a living example. I don’t mean he has to be perfect, otherwise, nobody will lead. It is in his constant effort and dedication to live up to the ideals of the vision, of that something good and great that the team now aspires for.

Six, leaders are faithful to the source of leadership. A leader loses the sense of his leadership once he forgets the source of leadership. Regardless of field, a leader gets his leadership from the people (the team, clients/customers, the people around him). He also gets his leadership from nature, from the environment, from Mother Earth (it is nature that demanded for leadership or else there will be chaos in this world). Ultimately, a leader is only an extension of God’s leadership. It is just right and a must that the leader stays faithful to God. And even if he makes mistakes, he must always come back to God. By himself, he won’t be able to do it; but with God’s grace, he will.

Seven, leaders grow everyday in all areas. If a leader has to do all these things, he must continue to grow in all areas of life every single day. As a human being, he won’t be able to do all these things perfectly. But if he strives to grow in these areas everyday, it is as if he is also doing it well. And keeps on improving everyday.

After all, that is what you and I can do and must do. To grow. To live. To lead. The best way we can.

 

Speak a message, spark inspiration, spur action!

Chris Dao-anis

 

PS: I’m inviting you to join us on September 1 (Saturday, 1-5pm) for a Public Speaking Seminar and Book Launch at Hotel Veniz, Abanao St, Baguio City. Today, August 17, is  the last day for the early bird rate of P497. Starting tomorrow, it will be at P597 (until August 31, Walk In Rate is at P650). Sign up now at www.chrisdaoanis.com/speak.

Your registration entitles you to a seat to the seminar, snack, certificate, and a FREE copy of the book ‘SPEAK: How to Craft and Deliver a Speech or Presentation with Confidence and Competence.

You may also register at Occasions Party Needs Shop, Mabini Shopping Center, Upper Mabini Street, Baguio City. For inquiries, you may text us at 0945-761-6577.

(Chris Dao-anis, CPA, DTM is a communication & leadership trainer, inspirational speaker, and author. SPEAK: How to Craft and Deliver a Speech or Presentation is his fourth book.)

 

 

What Does ‘Behave’ Really Mean

Once upon a time, my mother enrolled me in a barangay day care center in our town in Kibungan. I was five years young then. After ten months, they say we were graduating. I really didn’t  know what I have been doing during those months but on the day of our recognition rites, I was surprised because I was awarded ‘Most Behave.’

But maybe, it is no surprise at all. Why? Because I have been ‘behaving’ all those months. And when we say ‘behave’ we usually think of a person who sits still and stay silent. Not making noise when the teacher is talking and not moving from one seat to another. Someone who does not bully anyone and someone who knows how to follow instructions. I was that kind of boy who ‘behaves.’ And that was good. But in hindsight, I realized that something was missing. I missed the other side of behaving in an active way.

In my thirty years of living, I learned what ‘behaving’ really means. Behaving does not only mean sitting still and staying silent; behaving also means standing up and speaking your mind. Behaving does not only mean staying to your prescribed position; behaving also means asserting your right when you are being mistreated and aspiring for a higher cause. Behaving does not only mean not bullying; behaving also means empowering others, equipping them and inspiring them.  Behaving does not only mean knowing how to follow instructions; behaving also means stepping up to lead when a group needs direction, guidance, coaching or a simple cheer. Behaving is growing.

You and I are being called to behave. You and I are like that boy who was awarded ‘Most Behave’ because of the good things we have done and what we have accomplished so far. But our journey of growth has not ended and we shall think and act in a way that one day, we will again receive that award ‘Most Behave’ because the seeds of action that we are sowing right now, being nourished and nurtured by the positive attitude and growth mindset that we have, those seeds shall sprout, grow up, and bear fruits.

That is our message today. That is how we should be behave. To grow in our behavior – so we can take command of our career with confidence, so that we can communicate with competence, and so that we can lead with character. You and I shall grow!

After all, growth is part of our nature. It is part of living. It is the root and the fruit of our behavior, of our actions, of our mindset, of our heartset.

Today, let me remind you of your nature – you are meant to grow. So reconnect to that mindset of growth that is at the very core of your being. Look around and see a glimpse of your very nature. Plants that are growing, animals that are growing, people who are growing.

Stop telling yourself this is the only thing you can do. Stop telling yourself this is only how far you can go. Stop telling yourself this is only who you are. That is not your nature.

What’s your nature? You can do more things. You can grow yourself more. You can become more. And why so? Because you shall keep on creating, connecting and contributing. Because you are being called to live your life – a life in its fullness! For the glory of God.

Today, my friend, behave!

PS: I thank those who attended the Growth Summit last July 14. Join us again next year. Register here.

(Chris Dao-anis, CPA, DTM is a communication & leadership trainer, inspirational speaker, and author. His latest book ‘Living Large in the Little Things’ is available at Mt. Cloud Bookshop, Casa Vallejo, Upper Session Road, Baguio City. For talks and trainings, email info@chrisdaoanis.com or visit www.chrisdaoanis.com. You may also text 0945-761-6577.)

PS: Chris will be releasing his newest book ‘SPEAK: How to Craft and Deliver a Speech or Presentation’ on September 1. Join the seminar and book launch. Register here.

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When You’re Down and Out, Get Out and About

One day, a young man was having a bad day. He was feeling down. He was feeling bad. Then a wise man came and said, “Buy tickets!”

The surprised young man asked, “What do you mean?”

The wise man replied, “Open the paper today. Look for events happening in town. And buy tickets!” Then he gave the young man P500 to buy tickets.

The young man did as he was told. Be bought tickets to a concert and brought along his friends.

While listening to a particular song in that concert, he was deeply moved, inspired, and felt empowered. That moment changed the course of his day. It changed the course of his week. And that got him out and about of what he thought was a moment when he was down and out.

“Buy tickets!” Such a simple advise. Such a simple thing to do. But it can do magic.

Why? Because sometimes, when you think you are down and out, what you need to do is just to get out. Get yourself into a new environment – into a more positive and nurturing one. Into an inspiring mood. Listen to new teachings. Interact with positive people. Learn life lessons. Stop being so absorbed of that sadness and start engaging with joy and jubilation, with education and empowerment.

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“When you are down and out, you need to get out and about!” (Thanks to Brendon Burchard for this line.)

When you get out, you will also gain a sense of perspective that your life is not that bad after all. That other people’s lives may be even worse but you see them still fighting with that spirit of a peaceful and cheerful warrior. They are bringing the joy to their circumstances. They are continually searching fruits amidst failures. They are continually growing amidst struggles. They are continually living a life full of faith, hope and love. They are continually living life!

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Do you feel you are down and out? Do you feel you are stuck? Do you feel burn out? Here’s my tip: BUY TICKETS! Search for worthwhile events you can be part of and buy tickets today!

I enjoin you to buy tickets to the first ever Growth Summit in Baguio City – happening on July 14 (8am-5pm) a the MultiPurpose Hall of the Baguio City Hall. We have invited powerful speakers to share with us tips and tools, strategies and stories, experiences and insights on how to grow in our career, communication, confidence and leadership. Visit our registration table at the Porta Vaga Mall entrance from July 1-12, or visit Occasions & Party Needs at Mabini Shopping Center. You may register online at www.chrisdaoanis.com/growthsummit, email info@chrisdaoanis.com, or text 0945-761-6577. Go, buy tickets!

The Seeds Will Sprout

I woke up with excitement and sprinted to the garden in the backyard. I brought a pail of water with me to give a little shower to the supposed sprout of the seed I planted a few days ago.

I closely examined the plot, the spot where I put the seeds, but nothing was there. No sign of whatsoever. No shadow of sprout was there. The smile on my face faded away.

Then my mother shouted, “Just put a little water. Not too much. The seeds will sprout in the coming days.”

“Oh really?” I even doubted but I poured a little water into the plot and walked away.

A couple of mornings after, my mother was calling out from the backyard, “Go, water your plants!”

I woke up and several moments after, I dragged my feet and a pail of water to the garden. I wasn’t even looking. Then my mother said, “Look, do you see those sprouts?”

“Oh really?” I looked closely. And I saw tiny greens on the spot where I put the seeds.

I smiled as I slowly poured water around it. With gladness. Truly, the seeds have sprouted.

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Early on, as a kid, that’s what I learned – to plant seeds and wait a little while and get excited for the sprouts that are about to come. And when those sprouts come, keep on watering them and caring them so they will bear fruit and harvest as intended. Up to this day, as an adult, that’s what I needed to be reminded of – not to lose hope when you don’t see immediately  any sprout.

Today, we are reminded to keep planting. To keep working. To keep the faith. Because in due time, the seeds will sprout. The plants will grow and bear fruit. Our efforts will be rewarded. Our good works will multiply. Keep doing the good things you are doing.

So that one day, we can also say what St. Paul said in one of his last letters, “I have done my best in the race, I have run the full distance, and I have kept the faith.” (TEV)

Let’s keep planting seeds of growth. Join us at the Growth Summit here in Baguio on July 14, 8am-5pm at the MultiPurpose Hall of the Baguio City Hall. We have invited powerful speakers to share with us tips and tools, strategies and stories, experiences and insights on how to grow in our career, public speaking, confidence and leadership. Visit our registration table at the Porta Vaga Mall entrance from July 1-12, or visit Occasions & Party Needs at Mabini Shopping Center. You may also visit www.chrisdaoanis.com/growthsummit, email info@chrisdaoanis.com, or text 0945-761-6577.

Leaders Need Decent Dissent

We were organizing an event and coordinating some tasks to be done. I asked one of my team members to do something that was seemingly necessary to address an urgent concern. Then she replied she’ll try but also expressed her dissent in a decent way. She expressed her disagreement in a respectful way. She somehow said no — yet in a courteous way.

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While I was reading her reply, I said to myself, “She is right. Why did I not think of that?”

At that moment, I was reminded that when we are too close to the detail, we might be missing the bigger picture. As leaders, we need to have a balance of the big picture and the little details.

I sent her a message and said, “You are right. You have a point. Thanks for telling me that. Let me take care of it.”

If she did not express her dissent, I might have put myself into an undesirable situation.

I say, thank God for decent dissent. Thank God for leaders and team members who can express their disagreement to their leaders in a respectful way. Thank God for the gift of saying no, when necessary.

A decent dissent is a gift to leaders. Leaders need it. Leaders have to be open to it. Leaders are just humans who may miss to consider some needed criteria sometimes, who may miss to see situations objectively sometimes, and who may miss to think of important elements sometimes. Leaders have to accept differing views and statements.

On the contrary, when a leader kills the environment for a decent dissent, he is killing his own success rate. When a leader stops people from expressing their disagreement, he is setting himself up to failure. When a leader does not create an atmosphere that is safe to express varying views and opinions, he is missing out on the much needed gift of a decent dissent.

Therefore, if you are a leader, say yes to people who can say no to you. Say yes to an environment where people can say no.

If you are a team member, say yes to saying no to your leaders when necessary. (Learn how to express your dissent in a confident and courteous way. And do it.) This way, you are respecting and helping yourself and your leader. This way, you are setting yourself and your leader up for success. After all, that’s what you want. And that’s also what your leader wants.

Let me repeat, say yes to saying no. To leaders and team members: say yes to a decent dissent.
(Do you need to grow more as a leader or as a team member and as a person? I invite you to the first ever Growth Summit in Baguio on July 14 (Sunday) 8-5pm. You will learn how to grow in your career, public speaking, confidence and leadership. For details and registration, visit www.chrisdaoanis.com/growthsummit. You may also text 0945-761-6577 or email info@chrisdaoanis.com.)  

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Leadership Lesson from a Boat Race

There were four competing teams. Three members in a team. We positioned ourselves at the end of the pool and prepared to blow the paper boats toward the opposite direction. Whoever reaches the other end of the pool wins!

“Ready. Set. Go!”

With all my might, I pushed out all the air from my lungs and blew the top of our boat. “That should move it swiftly,” I thought. But instead of sailing inches, it tumbled down. I didn’t know what to do next. I stopped.

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Thanks to my teammates who are wiser and more experienced. (Let’s call them Uncle Vic and Uncle Nedo.) Without batting an eyelash, they started blowing and moving the boat toward the other direction. I closely observed as I moved with the current they were creating.

From my periphery, I could see that we were ahead of the pack. Then came our cheerleader, Uncle Benz, shouting, “Chris! Chris!” I didn’t know what he meant but I guess he was saying, “Hey, do something there buddy!”

Then realized, “Oh yes, I am not helping in blowing the boat to the other end.” I was simply walking and seemingly supporting and navigating through the current, as if there were waves coming from the water source of the pool.

Thankfully, that shout summoned my senses and I started blowing. Now with a sound strategy – instead of blowing the top of the boat, I targeted the base – and together with the last air supply from the powerful lungs of Uncle Vic and Uncle Nedo, we finally docked our boat at the edge of the pool.

We looked around and saw the other teams still blowing their boats. “Oh yes, we won! We won!” My three wise uncles gave me their high fives. We cheered! We shouted! We celebrated!

While showering several minutes later, with my introspective and reflective nature, I whispered to myself, “That’s a valuable leadership lesson out there! I thought I am an adaptable and flexible leader. Usually, I would be very quick to adjust to the situation. But in that event, I lose it. I froze. It took time for me to look at the circumstances before I started moving again – and with a better strategy. Without Uncle Vic and Uncle Nedo, who were so quick to think and act, we could have lost the race. I was reminded that I have a weakness which may be a strength of others. I was reminded that I can do something but I cannot do it all. I was reminded that I have skills but I don’t have all the skills. I was reminded that we are called to lead others and to lead withothers.”

In every team, company or organization, members with different experiences and strategies are there for a reason. Different leadership styles and approaches are there for a reason. They are there to complement each other. They are there to address certain instances. Certain situations call for certain styles. Certain events demand certain strategies. And if you are not quick to adjust, at least, someone in the team should. Sometimes, it is the person in the position. Sometimes, it is not. After all, each member should be ready because each member is a leader.

For as leaders, we need to involve ourselves in the team. As leaders, we need to act. As leaders, we need to adjust. As leaders, we need to observe closely and be ready to cope with the current of change while upholding our personal values and the core values of the organization. For as leaders, we need to lead!

And here’s a natural benefit: when we lead, we grow! It happens. It’s the way it is.

Let’s continue leading and growing. If you are based in Baguio City or somewhere near, let me personally invite you to join us at the GROWTH Summit on July 14 (Saturday, 8am-5pm). For more details, visit www.chrisdaoanis.com/growthsummit or email info@chrisdaoanis.com. You may also text 0945-761-6577.) Take this opportunity to meet leaders (irrespective of positions) who can help you grow and also grow with you! I look forward to seeing you there!

 

(This article first appeared on Herald Express — Chris Dao-anis’ column The Speaker.)

Don’t Forget You’ve Been Flying

As I was putting back my belt on after undergoing security inspection at the entrance, I saw a familiar face from a distance. It was my classmate in Grade 1, once a playmate during those much coveted recess times, a friend from our childhood days back home in Kibungan. Let’s call him Dreem.

“Hey, how are you? I know you have been flying but I didn’t know you are with this airline.”

He and his team of (what I call now based on our conversation) ‘Flight Safety Professionals’ were waiting for the plane they are about to man and fly. He had a few minutes to spare so he excused himself very quickly as we got into a friendly and profound conversation.

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I asked him about his career and what he does. “You have been flying here and there. So how is it?” He was generous and trusting enough to share what he had in his mind and heart. We walked to a seat nearby and went on to talk about life.

I wanted to ask him more questions but he had a flight to attend to. We took a selfie and then off he went.

In a moment, as I was walking toward the nearest restroom, I found myself thinking about how blessed I am. That short conversation I had with Dreem was something I didn’t know I needed as I continue to fly in this life. While we simply had a chit-chat, a deep and meaningful message was delivered to me through those seemingly spontaneous words from my friend.

While still sleepy from a five-hour bus ride from Baguio, a realization woke me up to my senses! I was awaken by the fact that God has been blessing me. He has been allowing me to fly (somehow) – in what I do, in what I have become, and in my continuous growth in life.

Sure, I haven’t flown as much miles as Dreem had (literally with his job) and I haven’t flown yet to those destinations I setting my eyes to. I am not yet there, I still have a long way to go. Still struggling and striving to that so-called sweet success that people want to fly to.

But I have to remind myself that I also have flown far and have grown a lot. I should not forget that I have been flying somehow. And I should be thankful for that.

Yes, there’s more in life. There’s more that must be done. There’s more that we must grow ourselves into. There’s more! In my case, I still have a loooooong way to go! Yet as I look at the far distance I have to fly further to, I have to remind myself that I have flown far from where I was to where I am now.

In our dream to accomplish more, in our effort to strive for more, let us not forget to be grateful of what was given to us already. Let us not forget the miles we have reached in our flight of life.

Today, let us be reminded to be thankful. Be thankful that you have been flying. Be thankful for the miles that you have flown and the miles that you are yet to fly. For it is only with gratitude that we can happily enjoy our flight, our flight of growth, our flight of life. It is with gratitude that we can grow even more with joy, satisfaction and meaning. It is with gratitude that we can continue flying.

My friend, fly with a smile!

To my friend Dreem, thank you for that conversation at the airport this morning. I pray for your plans, for your family, for you.

To you, my friend, keep flying with gratitude in your heart. Keep growing in the flight of life. If you are based in Baguio City or somewhere near, let me personally invite you to join us at the GROWTH Summit 2.0 on July 13, 2019 (Saturday, 8am-5pm). For more details, visit www.chrisdaoanis.com/growthsummit or email info@chrisdaoanis.com.) Take this opportunity to meet like-minded people striving to fly with gratitude in their hearts. I look forward to seeing you there!

Grow with Intention

How are you advancing in your career? Do you sometimes feel being left behind while others are moving forward? How are you growing in your field, in your job, in your profession, or business?

Here’s the truth about growth:

Growth is not optional. You have to opt to grow. Growth is necessary but not automatic. It has to be intentional. You have to choose to make it happen.

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Let me ask you:

Do you want to have the command in your business, career, or studies? Do you want to gain confidence when presenting, speaking to an audience, or simply communicating your ideas?

Do you want to increase your influence regardless of what position you are in? Do you want to experience growth in your career, in public speaking skills, in confidence, and in leadership?

I hope you say yes. And if you say yes, something great is about to happen. The first ever GROWTH SUMMIT in Baguio City is going to be happen on July 14. I encourage you to attend.


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What will you gain in this event? We aim to provide inspiration and instruction in the fields of career, public speaking, confidence and leadership.

Our speakers and panel discussants will share principles and practices, theories and tips to grow in your respective fields. It is our thrust to empower and equip you with actionable learning that you can apply and/or learn more about after attending this summit.

We will focus on growth in your career, in your public speaking skills, in gaining more confidence, and being able to command more your leadership skills. This is one-of-a-kind and first in Baguio.

We have invited powerful speakers and practitioners from Metro Manila and in the City of Baguio to bring value to you on the said date.

Let me repeat, growth does not happen automatically. It has to be intentional. One of the ways is by intentionally attending events like this. For more details, visit www.chrisdaoanis.com/growthsummit or email info@chrisdaoanis.com.)

Take this opportunity to meet like-minded people who wants to grow and take that journey of growth.

It starts now. Go!

 

Keep growing,

Chris Dao-anis

(Chris Dao-anis, CPA, DTM is your partner in personal development. His latest book ‘Living Large in the Little Things’ is available at Mt. Cloud Bookshop, Casa Vallejo, Upper Session Road, Baguio City. For inspirational talks, recollections, public speaking workshops or leadership trainings, email him at info@chrisdaoanis.com.)

 

Go and Share What You’ve Grown In

You’ve not fully grown unless you share to others what you’ve grown in.

Two weeks ago, we talked about granting yourself permission to achieve, to perform, to lead, to shine. Last week, we talked about growing in your field. Today, let me speak about growing fully by going out there and share what you’ve grown in.

To appreciate the value of sharing that which we have grown in, let’s take the case of the 12-step process of the famous Alcoholics Anonymous which is often mentioned by leadership expert Simon Sinek. First step is admitting the problem. Second is believe in the greater power. Third is make a decision to turn our will and our lives to the care of God. And the steps continue on until the 11th step. But they knew and have proven that the healing journey will never be complete without the 12th step, which is to share the message that have helped you grow as you continue to live your life practicing the principles that have helped you grow.

Yes, you have to share what you’ve grown in as you continue to better yourself even more every step of your life. So let me reiterate: grant yourself permission to grow, grow, and share what you’ve grown in.

I am blessed to have encountered people who have grown in their lives and generously help others to grow in the areas where they grew in (as they continue to grow even more).

I met March sometime in 2012. He just came from the province and was looking for a job at that time. He later got a toxic job that he had to leave very soon. Then came a time I wasn’t able to see him. He got busy looking for opportunities. Until one day, I heard from him. He shared that he is doing some volunteer ministry work and is also growing himself in the field of digital marketing. It took months and years. Oh yes! It took time. And he grew.

Today, he is a Certified Digital Marketing Specialist by the International Institute of Digital Marketing. He coaches people who want to transition to working from home or practically anywhere. He helps businesses, authors and CEOs in the Philippines and in the US boost the presence of their product online. And other than helping his clients online, he is also a Digital Marketing Trainer under the Department of Information and Communications Technology (DICT). He is also an active Life Skill Trainer and author of the ebook How to Work from Anywhere.

He also grew a lot in his volunteer ministry work. He now leads a group growing in their spiritual life at the Feast Mandaluyong Shaw. He has grown personally and professionally and now shares this growth to many people.

I am blessed because he said yes to my invitation for him to speak at the Growth Summit. Yes, I am speaking about March Nacino. He will speak about How to Work from Anywhere as part of our learning session in Career Growth. With him at the Growth Summit are Sha Nacino (a Certified Jack Canfield Trainer on Success Principles), Trixie Barretto Esguerra (Philippines’ Vision Board Coach), and Neb Perez (2018 National Speech Champion of Toastmasters District 75-Philippines in International Speech). One more speaker will be added soon.

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Many years ago, these individuals were struggling in their own fields but then they have granted themselves to grow and they went at it for years. Now they continue to grow as they share their growth to other people.

My friend, it’s your turn. Grant yourself that permission. Grow in your field. And go share what you’ve grown in.

 

Keep growing,

Chris Dao-anis

Let me personally invite you to join us at the first ever GROWTH Summit here in Baguio City on July 14 (Saturday, 8am-5pm). For more details, visit www.chrisdaoanis.com/growthsummit or email info@chrisdaoanis.com.) Take this opportunity to meet like-minded people who wants to grow and take that journey of growth. It starts now. Go!

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Grow In Your Field

Some of us are designated speakers, trainers and writers. Some of us are designated police officers, politicians and professors. Some of us are designated engineers, nurses, and entrepreneurs. I could go on and on. The point is that we have our own designations. We may call them our profession, career, job, occupation, vocation, or calling. Whatever you call it, it is important that we grow in our own fields.

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I just had my haircut this morning and at the ‘desk’ of the barber is a frame containing his professionally printed name with a statement saying, “A good haircut is not cheap and a cheap haircut is not good.” That got me thinking as he proceeded with my haircut. I haven’t seen that months ago. I whispered, “He is getting good in his ‘marketing.’ He is growing in his ‘communication skills.’” You see, communication skills include those verbalized and not verbalized, those not written and written.

After several minutes, I opened my eyes and looked at the mirror and said to myself, “Hmmm, he seem to be really growing in his craft.” After an intensely quick upper back massage, he said it’s done. Then I looked at the mirror and oh, I thought I looked handsomer with this new haircut than with my previous haircut. Note, my comparison is with my previous look (not with another person). Thanks to Mr. Barber who have grown in his marketing and in his skill. Because he has grown, he helped someone (me) to grow in how I look. In this way, he helped in making the society better looking with one better looking man at this time. (On another note, with his quality service, I gave him a relatively handsome tip!)

Now that also applies to you. When you grow your skills, you do not only grow yourself. You also help the people around you grow. And because the people around you are growing and becoming better, you are making the society and this world a better place. Yes, even better looking! (The bonus, you will earn more.)

There are many ways to hone your skills and grow in your field. You can keep practicing and receive evaluation from that practice and then implement the suggestions in your next practice. You can keep doing what you are doing and as you do it, keep improving how you do it. You can also attend trainings, workshops, and learning sessions. When was the last time you attended a training session? When was the last time you participated in a seminar? When was the last time you read a book? When was the last time you intentionally learned something not just because your supervisor required you to do so?

Remember, growth happens but it is not automatic. Growth happens with intention. Growth happens with your decision, choices and actions.

Today, make that decision, that choice. And act on it. Grow yourself. In time, you will notice how you are serving better, earning better, and making the society better – just like what Mr. Barber does!  

 

Speak a message, spark inspiration, spur action!

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(Chris Dao-anis, CPA, DTM is your partner in personal development. His latest book ‘Living Large in the Little Things’ is available at Mt. Cloud Bookshop, Casa Vallejo, Upper Session Road, Baguio City. For inspirational talks, recollections, public speaking workshops or leadership trainings, email him at info@chrisdaoanis.com. Like his page at www.fb.com/chrisdaoanis.)