How to Stay Ready to Speak, Minimize Your Pause-Fillers, and Own Your Presentation

What are your burning questions when it comes to public speaking?

In this post, you will gain the insights I shared to four of the questions sent to us on Facebook.

Question 1 (from Romarc Igualdo Guyon)

How public is public speaking?

It can be as public as it gets.

You might be speaking to a small audience or large audience. You might be speaking to five people, fifty people, or five hundred people.

Public speaking happens in many occasions – from formal to informal events. Campaign. Press briefing. Assemblies. Lectures. Trainings. Conferences. Graduation. Funeral. Weddings. Birthdays. Fiestas.

That’s a warm up question I guess. So we proceed to the next question.

Question 2 (from Tin Dao-anis)

What is the simplest strategy in order to deliver a compelling speech when asked on the spot?

I was listening to Craig Valentine, a World Champion Public Speaking. He shared that having a title World Champion of Public Speaking is both a blessing and a curse.

On his flight going back home after the World Championship of Public Speaking, a woman noticed the gigantic trophy he was carrying. She saw the label. It reads, “World Champion of Public Speaking.”

The woman goes, “Wow! World Champion of Public Speaking. Hmmm, come on, say something, say something!”

People would always ask him to say something. Almost every single time. He learned the lesson not to get ready to speak but to STAY READY TO SPEAK.

In a smaller scale, I have experienced what he experienced (not with the world champ trophy). But there are events where people, knowing that I’m a speaker and trainer, would ask me to say something. It is challenging but I have to strive to stay ready to speak. I’m still learning.

So in occasions when you are asked to speak and you are not prepared, the key is to stand up, speak up, and shut up. You don’t have to take much time. Just say sensible words. May it be some words of congratulations, words of sympathy, or words of thanks. Or maybe some relevant information or words of inspiration.

You can stand up and share a story that makes sense. You can share a recent experience and share the lesson you learned from that experience.

You can also stand up and share what you felt in that occasion.

Just be real. Be sincere. And I repeat. Stand up, speak up, and shut up.

Before we leave this question, here are three ways to prepare or stay ready:

1. Keep the practice of writing or journaling. Writing about your experiences, insights, and learnings on paper makes you remember them even more. When the occasion calls you to use them, use them.

When you write something, you will be able to structure it well and even clarify what’s the point, lesson, or message it brings. When the occasion demands, pull that out from your memory and deliver it.

2. Practice sharing your experiences and stories with your family and friends. You can also join Toastmasters and always participate in the Table Topic Session or Impromptu Speaking Session. That will exercise your muscle in impromptu speaking.

3. Prepare beforehand. When you are on your way to an event and you have that feeling that they will ask you to say something, prepare what you can possibly say while on the way.

Question 3 (from Margie C. Thomas)

How can I overcome the tendency to say ‘um, uh’? This is what I always utter when I’m running out of words. Is there a possibility to control this expression?

The reason why we say, ‘um, uh’ and other pause fillers or verbalized pauses is because we are thinking of what to say next. It’s like the mind is catching up with the mouth. And since the thought or idea is not up and clear yet, we utter those sounds ‘um, uh.’ It may be that the speaker forgot what to say next or pehaps the speaker is so nervous or preoccupied with other things.

So here are three prescriptions:

1. Presence

One of the reasons is preoccupation. Meaning, the speaker is not fully present. Hence, you have to make sure that you are there in that moment, in that place, for the occasion, for the audience. You must be present – mind, body, and soul.

You can do some breathing exercises and mindfulness exercises. (We will elaborate this in another post.) And yes, prayer helps.

2. Preparation

Prepare. Prepare. Prepare. Included in the preparation is practice. If you are well prepared, you know your material. If you internalized it and you’ve been practicing the delivery, the less likely that you will forget some lines and the less likely that you will utter many ‘ums and uhs’.

Also, proper preparation will help you to be more present.

3. Pauses

One of the odd reasons why speakers utter pause fillers is because they are uncomfortable with silence. Note that pauses are important when delivering speeches.

You pause to prepare to say a punch line or something important.

You pause for a while to let the audience absorb what you just said.

You pause to breathe in and transition.

You pause to prepare and clarify in your mind what you are about to say.

All these will come with proper practice, evaluated experience, and coaching.

Question 4. (from Verne Jules Cabading)

When I’m presenting a project that I only had a small part in or a topic I didn’t come up with, it feels like I don’t own it, so I lose confidence in talking about it. How can I own the presentation or at least be confident in presenting it?

Brilliant question. And the answer is in the question. The key word is OWNERSHIP. If you have a small or no participation in a material you are delivering, you will not be as confident as you are in a material that you yourself have prepared.

The cause of the problem is LACK OF OWNERSHIP, so the solution is to TAKE OWNERSHIP.

This can be approached in two different stages.

Before Completion Stage. Based on your experience, you can anticipate events or projects in which you will mostly be asked to present. Hence, take the necessary effort to participate in it, the preparation of which, so there will be a SENSE OF OWNERSHIP.

After Completion Stage. What if you had no way to anticipate it and they only asked you to present it when it was already done? This is more challenging, but you can still OWN it.

Ask yourself, “Can I customize the content and structure?”

I can still remember that moment when my teacher approached me and said, “Chris, you will deliver the welcome remarks. Here’s the speech.” That was two days before our high school graduation day. They wanted me to deliver a speech that someone else prepared. (Actually, I don’t remember how many days I had but to me, it seemed like I just had two days.) Yikes! I would have wanted to write my own speech and deliver it. But that was not the case.

The task of preparing the speech was not given to me beforehand because they didn’t know yet the ranking of the honor list. That was my assumption! So being the good boy that I am, I just said, “Yes, ma’am.”

Now, I had to make it my own. I had no time and could not customize or change the content and structure. But I could customize the style and delivery by OWNING it. How? Rehearsal and repetition. I kept practicing it. In my mind and out loud. I internalized it.

When the ceremony came, I stood on stage and delivered the opening remarks with confidence, ownership, and sincerity.

So again, if you cannot customize the material, jump into your rehearsal mood and internalize it.

What if you can customize the content and structure? Much better.

In a community that I was serving at, there were occasions when I would be asked to preach or speak because the preacher or speaker had to attend an equally important event. In that particular community, there is a standard material that is being downloaded coming from the main preacher (the founder).

You cannot change the main message but you can change or customize the examples. You can use your own stories to make it personal. You can tweak the structure a bit. And that’s what I did.

The message is not mine, but some of the examples and stories are mine. From there, I would practice it and internalize it – having that SENSE OF OWNERSHIP and SENSE OF PARTICIPATION.

With the grace of God, I was able to deliver the message well.

The other aspect of this question is PRIDE, and thus, will be addressed by HUMILITY. I believe this is not you, but some people might say they don’t like to deliver what’s not theirs. But what if that’s your job. Then do it.

Having that humility to accept your role, your level of participation in certain endeavors, your role in the greater scheme of things. Accept it and do what you can. Take the stage. Own it. And deliver what you are meant to deliver.

In Closing

Learn to stay ready to speak.

Minimize pause fillers by being present, prepared, purposefully use pause.

And take ownership of your presentation.

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Give Us This Day Our Daily Bread

While I was cooking our late breakfast this morning, I heard the roaring sound of a helicopter. I looked outside and there it was slowly moving in the blue sky. Is it going to deliver some relief goods to a nearby town? Is it going to deliver a VIP somewhere nearby? I didn’t know.

I went back to the kitchen and as the roaring sound started to fade in the background, I remembered what we used to do as little kids in the town of Kibungan.

Everytime we hear a roaring sound of the helicopter, we would look up and locate where it was. And run toward the wide space at the back of the church where choppers used to land. While running, we would be shouting, “Umyakayo’s tinapay! Umyakayo’s tinapaay! Umyakayo’s tinapaaay!” (Give us some bread! Give us some breaad! Give us some breaaad!) The neighborhood would be filled by those words we were shouting at the top of our voices with passion and excitement. We were hopefuls!

Those running and shouting toward the direction of the helicopter were inspired by stories of our man-manong (older brothers). They would tell us, “Ammo yo ed idi, ad-adu di manlan-landing ed isdi Madagem. Yan enkami ilan. Yan mayat tan inumya da si tinapay. (You know, in the recent past, there were several helicopters landing there in Madagem. We would go and see. And it was good because they gave us some bread.) I didn’t know the veracity of the story but it seemed true because it wasn’t only me who heard the story, but also the other kids in the neighborhood did. Hence, everytime we hear those roaring sounds, the united move was to run and shout those precious words, “Umyakayo’s tinapay.” (Give us some bread!)

No fail. Everytime a roaring sound of a helicopter is heard, we would run and shout, “Umyakayo’s tinapay!” (Give us some bread!) We were consistent.

But the experience was consistent as well. Not a single one of those roaring helicopters would land. Never. None at all.

Yet everytime a roaring sound of a helicopter is heard, we would run and shout, “Umyakayo’s tinapay!” (Give us some bread!) At the top of our voices, with passion and excitement. We were hopefuls. (At least, until we knew better.)

And while I was serving the simple breakfast I prepared this morning, I saw an image of those little children running and shouting, with high hopes that they will receive bread from whoever is in that flying object. Even if they never experienced one before, they were still filled with hope, excitement, and expectation.

I paused. I thought, “Do we also have that hope, excitement, and expectation when we ask for something these days?”

“Do I have that hope, excitement, and expectation when I pray to the Father, ‘Give us this day our daily bread.’?”

“Do I?”

I paused a little while and whispered, “Give us this day our daily bread.” That moment, I trusted. I hoped. I expected. I smiled with excitement.

This COVID19 Crisis Situation has disturbed us. It disrupted our normal routine, our work, our jobs, our businesses.

While we observe how Mother Earth is breathing these days (which I am thankful for), we also see the other side of the picture. Last night, I saw a Facebook post of someone raising funds for his friends who lost their source of income. Another post shared how he had to accept a much lower pay than usual for a project he was doing. Two weeks ago, I was told about someone on the other side of the world who had to move to another state because the restaurant they were working in closed down.

We are facing a crisis.

But in the midst of this crisis situation, may we still stay hopeful. Believing THAT THIS TOO SHALL PASS. That better days are coming.

And that as we go through this, we must grow through it. So we also take the time to equip ourselves. To learn new skills, to enhance what we already have, and to master what we do best. Still with hope, excitement, and expectation.

New days are coming. A new beginning is brewing.

Let us have what those innocent little children had. Let us run with excitement. Let us shout with hope and expectation. And as you whisper to pray to our Father, say it with all your heart…

“Our Father in heaven

Holy be your name

Your kingdom come

Your will be done on earth as it is in heaven

Give us this day our daily bread

And forgive us our sins

As we forgive those who sin against us

Do not bring us to the test

But deliver us from evil. Amen.”

“For Yours is the kingdom, the power, and the glory now and forever. Amen.”

With a smile on your face and hope in your heart, whisper this, for you and for other people, “Umyakayo’s tinapay.”

The Lord you are praying to is not a helicopter by the way. He is a Father. He listens. He provides. He loves.

Is It Your Dream to Write a Book?

How many times have you said, “I will write a book.”

You have a message that you want to share to the world. You have a story that can inspire people. You have ideas, experiences, and life lessons that help empower members of your company, organizations, and community.

You have a book in you. Only, it wasn’t written yet!

This book could help promote your business, build your credibility in your profession, bring in new clients, and be of contribution to the community. You want to deliver value to the people you serve.

So why haven’t you written your book yet?

Maybe you’re waiting for the right time. When will that come?

Maybe you don’t think you have what it takes. Who can give me permission?

Maybe you don’t know how to begin. Or maybe you have started something but got stuck somewhere. Who am I to write anyway?

Maybe you are thinking, “What if I write this book but no one will read it?”

But despite all these questions, your heart is telling you, “You must write a book.”

Why not write that book right now?

If you will not write that book right now, then when will you?

If you will not write that book right now, how many people will continue to be deprived of your message?

If you will not write that book right now, will you just look back one day when you’re old and regret not writing your book?

Don’t let that happen to you. Stop your what-if’s and start acting.

It’s time to go from PONDERING to PUBLISHED!

I’ve always wanted to write a book. I dreamt of becoming an author. I thought needed to grow so wise and old until I get to become a published author. I didn’t know when it will happen.

Until one day, I learned about the truths about book writing and publishing, and came across a process to help me do so, my dream of becoming an author turned into a reality.

Author of Five Books to Date

I became an author at the age of 25. Now I’m 32 with five (5) books under my name.

  • It took me three years to write my first book,
  • three weeks to write my second book,
  • one year to write my third book,
  • four weeks to write my fourth book, and
  • one week to write my fifth book.
Contribution and Credibility, Influence and Income

These books have helped me achieve my desire to be of contribution to my clients and to the community. It helped me influence my readers become better individuals – sharing how they can grow in their career, in their competence and confidence, in their communication and leadership skills, in their life as a whole.

Incidentally, this also helped me establish more credibility as a speaker and trainer, leading me to serve more clients, and earn more income. But more so, it is being able to live your mission and helping other people live better lives.

A Proven Process Will Help You Become an Author this Year

Once you understand the industry and put a proven process to work, your dream of writing and publishing a book will come true. And you can decide when to launch your next book!

Do you want to become an author this year? It is possible.

But the question is, “Will you take action?”

I’m serious in helping you make your dream of writing a book a reality. I’m offering a FREE BOOK WRITING INTRODUCTORY SESSIONS starting April 15, 2020 via Facebook Live on our Private Group:

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Why You Should Suspend Judgment

You could see people walking around pushing their carts. (Luzon was put on Enhanced Community Quarantine just the night before.) There I was heading to the cashier to pay for the groceries I got. There were four lines, the shortest one was on the right. With excitement, I dashed towards it. The sign read, “Lane for senior citizens, PWDs, and privilege cardholders only.” I sighed. I found the tail of the other line at the corner of the supermarket.

I lined up and patiently waited. Thirty minutes. One hour. Two hours. I counted those before me, I was the 20th customer in line. “Almost there!” I said to myself.

While we were moving forward, I noticed something strange. “How did that happen? Two hours ago, I lined up at the end of the regular lane. Why am I here in the senior citizen lane?” The other customers seem to be asking the same thing. But having waited for more than two hours, we might have a similar thought, “Is it proper that they move us to the other lane?”

Some of the guards and staff learned about the mix-up. They seem to understand so they did not bother asking us to transfer.

Then a woman of senior age walked in, approached the guard and began complaining, “Why are these people in ‘our’ lane?” The guard explained, “We can give you a spot here but please understand that these people have been here the entire morning.” Still, she insisted and continued to complain.

In the quietness of my mind, a whisper came, “But they shouldn’t be here either. Senior citizens and pregnant women should be staying at home at this time.” I was ready to verbalize my argument. Thankfully, my face mask prevented me. I paused. I kept silent. I looked around. There were other senior citizens. There were many customers – young and old.

And a voice within said, “What if they were the only ones in their household? What if nobody is with them that they themselves have to go out? What if nobody else will do it for them?” The truth is – I didn’t know their situation.

My friend, do you tend to judge quickly? Have you done something foolish because of this?

That day I was reminded to suspend judgment. When we suspend judgment, we give ourselves the opportunity to think better and respond appropriately.

When we suspend judgment, we give ourselves the opportunity to think better and respond appropriately.

Angels Among Us

01.14.20 We just attended the priestly ordination of Fr. Ariel in Kibungan and we were driving (rushing) back to Baguio to be in time for an appointment that afternoon at 3.

The clock read, 2:15. “We can make it,” I whispered.

While we were about to approach a curve, “Pooof!!!”

It was loud. It was sudden. It was quick. No warnings or whatsoever.

“Thank God, we have a spare tire.” But no, it was not the tire.

“What was it?” my wife asked.

I looked ahead and saw something like a smoke coming out from under the hood. But it was not smoke. I didn’t know what type of gas.

Thank God, we were nearing a bend of the road so we were slowing down. I pulled over, opened the hood, and tried to check what happened.

Oh well, I got credentials. I am a Certified Public Accountant and a Distinguished Toastmaster. I had some years of meaningful experience… BUT NO, I AM NOT AN AUTO-MECHANIC.

I tried to locate what may look unusual which might have caused that gas coming out. But I could not see one.

I kept on looking. Still, I could not see one.

So instead of looking under the hood, I started to look outside. “Any passersby?”

One vehicle was coming, I signaled for help. But nobody from them could give help.

Another vehicle came, I signaled for help. He said he had to go “there” somewhere first and then come back in case he could give help.

Another vehicle came. The person in front waved at me. She knew me. I waved back at her. And they passed by.

“Hmmm, let me call someone who knew what might have gone wrong.”

While I was about to call, I heard someone call my name and asked, “What went wrong?”

Oh, they did not just pass by. They parked a few meters ahead and came back.

I replied, “I don’t know but it must be something in here. Maybe “he” knows this stuff…?”

“Oh yes, he’s there… coming.”

Her partner, who was driving, came. I told him the details.

“Ok, let’s check!”

He tried to look under the hood. “Hmmm, I could not see anything,” he said.

“Do you want me to start the engine so you can see where the gas will come out?”

“Hmmm that’s… uh…. ok… go.”

“Alright. Here we go!”

I was about to switch it on…

“Wait! Don’t start it. I saw it.”

Then he showed it to me.

“Do you have something to replace that part?”

“Oh sorry, I don’t have.”

“Well, we can temporarily replace that with a screw. Let me get one here.”

As he walked to his van, someone called me (the one who I was trying to call earlier). I told him what happened and what we were about to do. Then he said, “Oh good, that thing came out. Remember the one I gave you before, that thing should replace it.”

“Oh yes, I do remember that. Let me get it then.”

When the ‘hero of the hour’ came back, I handed him that ‘thing’ – and said, “This should replace that part, right? It’s called…”

“Oh yes, that should work.”

He got his tools. Did what mechanics do and replaced the thing.

“It should work now,” he said.

I switched on the engine. No other unusual sound. No more gas coming out. Things are back. Working. Normal.

“Thank youuuu so muuuuuch. Imbag ta adda kayo.” (It’s good you came.)

He smiled at me and said casually, “Talaga nga kasta ti lugan nga tumartaray.” ‘No big deal. That stuff happens.’

He did not ask for anything. I did not know if I should pay him cash.

How do I pay back his kindness?

While fixing the tools, a thought came to mind. I asked my wife, who was there so supportive, patient, and calm, to hand them a small something just to express our sincere thanks. (It wasn’t money.) They received it with a smile.

We got back to our own rides and continued driving to where we were heading. My wife and I managed to catch our appointment and did what must be done.

I don’t know what could have happened if they were not there driving on that same road at that same hour on that same day.

But experiences like this continue to tell me that there are angels among us. That God sends people who will help us. That God sends people to demonstrate his love, his kindness, his power.

He loves us so much and he continues to show it in small and great ways.

And experiences like this also continue to tell me that people, children of God, are here present and alive.

This is an experience of love. And I shall say, “Thank you for the love.”

Salamat unay. Salamat apo.

#thanksbetoGod #reflectionsontheroad #Godwithus #angelsamongus

What Truly Matters

Today, I saw a man in a coffin. Prayerfully at peace.

It reminded me of how short life is.
Of how we should focus on what matters.
In this life. That this life is temporary.
That there is the next life — long and lasting.

Too often, in life, we fight unnecessary battles.
We create unnecessary chaos.
We contribute to confusion.
Why do we do so?

But when we see the face of death,
When we see the matter of mortality,
We are reminded of what really matters.

Truly, at the end of our lives,
We DO NOT ask –
how many arguments we’ve won
how we displayed our intelligence
how we made a name of our own

We rather ask –
Did I live?
Did I love?
Did I contribute to the community?

Tough, isn’t it?
That’s why we need God’s grace.
His mercy and grace…

#leadershipthoughts #reflectionsontheroad #toughconversations #onlytherealmatters #mortalitymotivation

Dynamic Dependence

Was there a time in your life when you forced yourself to do something because you thought it must be done but nobody is doing it?

In Grade 4, I learned to play the guitar. In Grade 5, I started to play the guitar for our church services in Kibungan – not because I was so good but because I was the only one who knows and the only one who was available. In fact, I was pushed to learn how to play guitar because there were two guitars in church, but no one was playing them. To me, our mass or prayer meeting seemed a bit dry when we sing songs without it. I told myself, “If nobody will do it, I will do it.” So, there I was.

For four Sundays, I had been choosing one and the same song for the procession. Somebody asked, “Is that your favorite song?” I said, “No, but it’s the only song I can play. For the stanzas, you only need two chords (A and E); and in the chorus, you just add the third one (D). I was not so good. Some people would give feedback and say it ‘nicely’, “Medyo silang din adjust di gitara sya?” They were pertaining to the tuning of the guitar strings but I knew I was making many mistakes. Wrong key. Wrong rhythm. Wrong chord. But I was happy that I was serving in church. I was loving God through this new-found talent.

Through time, I became better.

I continued serving in our parish. I involved myself in the music ministry and youth ministry. When I turned first year high school, I was elected as the President of the Student Catholic Action in our school. Being the President, I was sent to attend a national gathering of Catholic youth leaders in Cavite. For some reasons, even if it was a national gathering, there was a shortage of instrumentalists. Nobody was playing the guitar. I had to volunteer. So, there I was – imperfect, not so talented – but playing the guitar and leading a group of young leaders from all over the Philippines singing their hearts out to praise and worship the Lord.

[Maybe you are not the best. Maybe you think you are imperfect, not talented, or not skilled. But God is calling you to do something. Do it. He will equip you along the way. And by what you do, you are responding to His call to love Him back. For what you do for Him is a concrete manifestation of the truth that you are set-apart for God’s use only. Because this call is not just for priests and pastors preaching in the pulpit. This is a call that is applicable to all of us, regardless of our profession or position. Teachers. Policemen. Drivers. Farmers. Businessmen. Employees. Professionals. Students. Whoever you are.]

But even if you are serving God, it is not a guarantee that it will be smooth and perfect.

When I turned third year high school, I was still active in the parish youth ministry. I was the leader. And still the guitarist. We planned for activities, for projects. We did a concert for a cause. We went to a far barangay in Kibungan with a group of volunteers, a band and some borrowed instruments. During the event, one electric guitar that we borrowed fell from the table down to the floor. The bridge was damaged. The guitar was destroyed.

And because we also lacked management and marketing skills, the event did not earn much. The event could not even pay the repair or replacement of that borrowed guitar. I thought to myself, “I have to pay for that.” But how could a third-year high school student, from a poor family, afford it?

I went home with that problem. And for some reasons, another problem came in. And another.

I told myself, “This is enough. Let them do it by themselves.”

I stopped going to church. Days went by. Weeks went by.

I thought they were the ones losing in my absence. But I realized, I was the one losing. Something in me was looking for something. And slowly, I pulled myself back to the church. I started to participate again. I started to serve again.

And that problem we were facing, it was gone. The other, it was solved. And our parish priest handed me an envelope of cash which I delivered to the owner of the guitar to pay for the damaged guitar.

I continued to serve even in my imperfect ways. I was growing in the process. One Christmas Day, I received a card from our parish priest. As I read his message to me, I well up in tears. I thought that what I was doing was minor, small, ordinary… but he said, “Thank you for using your gift so that people can sing their praise to God.” I realized that what I was doing – even how small it was – is special. It is. After all, it was for God.

My friends, let me tell you this: Your Father celebrates your small ways of serving Him. With your time, talent, and treasure. Your selfless service. In your work. Wherever you are assigned. Whatever good thing you do, do it with your best. And do it for HIM because you are for Him!

Sometimes you get discouraged because you are imperfect. People around you are imperfect. People leading you are imperfect. This happens because we, all, are a work-in-progress. So, rise up and serve Him anyway. And give your all!

Why Develop Your Public Speaking Skills

People miss out on promotions, higher performance, and increased earnings because they do not put the effort in developing their public speaking skills.

Today, let me remind you of the three reasons why you should be intentional in growing your speaking skills.

First, it matters in employment. In a Harvard Business Review article by Rebecca Knight, she cites Dorie Clark, author of ‘Entrepreneurial You’ saying, “Having influence in the workplace has clear value. You get more done and you advance the projects you care about and are responsible for… You’re more likely to be noticed, get promoted, and receive raises.”

Before I was hired by one of the top auditing firms in the country, I was interviewed four times. I had to articulate well what I could offer to the company.

Before I was promoted to a supervisory position in my previous company, I had to do a lot of coordination, presentations, meetings, and all sorts of conversations on top of my regular accounting tasks. With this, I was able to achieve the results required. Coincidentally, my superiors also noticed my leadership potential. Thanks to those who helped me develop my speaking skills and to the experiences that helped me overcome my shyness.

Second, it matters in entrepreneurship. Billionaire Richard Branson said, “Today, if you want to succeed as an entrepreneur, you also have to be a storyteller… It is not enough to create a great product; you also have to work out how to let people know about it.” Storytelling calls for communication. And oftentimes, stories are told through a speech or presentation.

When I published my first book in 2013, it has become my business to market it, to sell it, to reach more readers. I cannot just sit and let it speak for itself. I had to speak about it. In two years, I was able to sell 80% of the printed copies (20% was given as gifts). My supportive friends would not have known about the book had I not spoke about it in a confident and comprehensible way.

Third, it matters in everyday life. Communication, which includes public speaking, is inevitable. It is almost comparable to air and water. You cannot live without communicating. That’s how it matters.

Brian Tracy said, “Your ability to communicate with others will account for fully 85% of your success in your business and in your life.”

Warren Buffett, one of the world’s wealthiest men, also said, “You can improve your value by 50% just by learning communication skills – public speaking.”

Even if I do not quote these big names and cite studies, you know from experience, that communication and public speaking matters a lot.

It’s high time, my friend, to start being more intentional in exerting the effort to develop your public speaking skills. It will help you as an employee, or as an entrepreneur, and as a person.

Take that required step now. Read that book. Attend that workshop. Be part of that group. Learn from mentors. Start speaking up!

(Chris Dao-anis, CPA, DTM is an inspirational speaker, leadership trainer, public speaking and presentations coach, and book writing coach. He authored 5 books including ‘SPEAK: How to Craft and Deliver a Speech or Presentation’. Book him for coaching or invite him to speak to your next event.

Purpose is Important

You have to know your purpose. This is one of the similarities of life, courtship and speeches.

You have to answer the questions:

(Life) Why are you here?

(Courtship) What’s your intention in courting that girl?

(Speech) What do you want to achieve with your presentation?

You won’t be so excited about life if you do not know your reason why. You will not move forward in courtship if your intention in approaching someone is not clear. Your speech will not serve you and your audience if you don’t have a purpose.

In my book SPEAK, I shared three general purposes of a speech: show, shine, and sell.

To show is to inform the audience about a person, a cause, a procedure, an object, an idea, a concept, a place, or an event.

To shine is to inspire or entertain. You may want to inspire your audience and uplift their spirits. You may want to appeal to noble motives and inspire them to pursue higher goals. On the other hand, you may want to entertain them by making them laugh or simply painting a smile on their faces through your words or message.

To sell is to persuade or convince. You may want them to do something – to support your project or advocacy, to say yes to your proposal, to buy something, or vote for you. You may want to convince them to agree with you – with your belief or conviction.

Before you proceed in your speech preparation, your purpose should be crystal clear. This way, you know what to include in your content, you know how to support your point, and you know how to approach this particular project.

Do this everytime you prepare a speech. With the purpose in mind, you will have more chances of achieving it. This exercise will come in handy even in other areas of life – oh yes, including courtship. 😉

(Chris Dao-anis, CPA, DTM is a leadership trainer, presentations coach, and author of 4 books including ‘SPEAK: How to Craft and Deliver a Speech or Presentation with Competence and Confidence’. Get a free copy of his book by joining his SPEAK 2.0 Intensive Public Speaking Workshop on May 25 in Baguio City. Check the details and register at Hurry seats are limited!)

Where should you begin when preparing your speech?

The main thing should be the first thing. This is so true in life. It is also true when preparing your speech or presentation.

How do you start with the main things?

I have a friend who asked me, “Chris, can you give some activities or games I can use for my seminar?”

I acknowledge and commend him for his humility and willingness to learn. But there’s something missing in his question or in the information he prioritizes to prepare. He was asking for activities or games but he doesn’t have the main things yet.

Before looking for activities or games to use, you should start with PAM: Purpose, Audience, Message.

First, you have to know your purpose. What is the objective of your speech or seminar? What do you want to accomplish?

Second, you have to know your audience. Who will you be talking to? Who are the participants?

Third, you have to know your message. What is it that you want to tell them? What is it that you want to convey?

Get clear with your purpose, audience, and message first before you start asking the questions, “What games or activities can I use to support my point? What examples will I use to illustrate my message?”

When you are set with these main things, the games and activities will be easy to find or create. You can have your own or you can model from those of others. You can find a lot of examples on Google or Youtube.

Again, let the main thing be the first thing. Start with PAM: Purpose, Audience, Message. This way, the activities will be aligned to your message, will fit your audience, and will accomplish your purpose.

If you want to enhance your competence and confidence in giving speeches or presentations, join me at the SPEAK 2.0 Public Speaking Workshop on March 16 at the SIRIB Center, Saint Louis University, Baguio City.

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(Chris Dao-anis, CPA, DTM is a presentations coach, keynote speaker, and author of 4 books. Like his page at