How a Single Parent Bounced Back & Flourished in Her Career

In this fourth episode of Growth Conversations, I interviewed Jamie Yaneza, a professional teacher, sought-after events host and planner, and a proud mom.

Join the conversation as we speak about How a Single Parent Bounced Back and Flourished in Her Career.

I asked her these questions:

  • You are a teacher, events hosts, events planner, entrepreneur, Toastmaster, and a mom. You are a super woman! How do you make all these possible?
  • What’s the typical week of Jamie Yaneza – before this pandemic and during this pandemic?

Our topic is How a Single-Parent Beautifully Bounced Back and Flourished in Her Career.

  • What is one of the toughest mistakes you made in your personal life? What happened and how did you bounce back?
  • Any words of encouragement to those who may have committed a similar mistake?
  • How about in your career – what’s one of your biggest mistakes? What happened and how did you recover?
  • You are also an entrepreneur. Any bad move you did and how did you address it?
  • If you were to go back in time, is there something you would have done differently?
  • In all these downs and ups in your life, what top three life lessons would you want to share our viewers?
  • You own a café. How can they experience what you offer? How can they reach you if they need a host or planner? How about your Toastmasters Club?
  • With all that’s going on in the world these days, what keeps you inspired?

(You may watch the interview below or on youtube here: https://youtu.be/NICuzphdMoU)

To access the Growth Summit 2020 OnDemandEdition, go to http://bit.ly/growthondemand

How You Can Overcome Quarter-Life Crisis

In this third episode of Growth Conversations, Chris Dao-anis interviews Jaizy Tanawe, author of 4 books including 9 Powerful Hacks for a Quarter-Life Breakthrough.

She said that she found her passion before college graduation and went out to conquer the world with her big, audacious dreams in life. Only to find out years down the road that passion alone can’t take you to where you want to go.

I asked her:

Questions:

  • What keeps you busy these days?
  • Who is Jaizy Tanawe before she became an author?
  • You mentioned that you found your passion before college graduation but later found out that passion alone can’t take you to where you want to go. Please tell us what you mean by passion.
  • What was the passion you found out?
  • What did you do when you thought you found that passion?
  • Why did you say that passion alone can’t take you to where you want to go?
  • You wrote a book about quarter-life breakthrough. What is quarter-life and what is quarter-life crisis?
  • What are your tips to overcome quarter-life crisis?
  • How can they reach you? How can they buy your books?
  • We got to know each other because you attended the Growth Summit 2018. Can you tell us about your experience there?
  • Closing Words

Join the conversation.


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How a Mother Channeled Her Pain Into Her Profession and Purpose

I interviewed Charlyn June Awing in our Growth Conversations interview series. Ms. Charlyn, also known as Mother Ant, is a website copywriter, freelance writing mentor, and anti-violence against women advocate.

She is devoted to helping her clients turn their boring copy to enticing messages, her mentees start a successful freelance writing business, and the victims of women abuse break free from their abusive relationships.

Her mission is to be a good servant of God through her blessings. She believes that everyone was sent in this universe for a perfect purpose – to serve.

She will also be one of the session speakers at the Online Growth Summit 2020.

Our topic centered on How a Mother Channeled Her Pain Into Her Profession and Purpose.

I asked her these questions:

  1. What’s the typical day of Mother Ant at present?
  2. We talked about what you do now. Can you tell us about your former self or previous job?
  3. Why and how did you start your career as a Website Copywriter?
  4. What does a Website Copywriter do? Is this career/business still thriving in the midst of this pandemic?
  5. Can anyone be a Website Copywriter? What are the top three requirements of becoming a Website Copywriter?
  6. You said that you are an Anti-Violence Against Women Advocate. Can you tell us your story?
  7. How are you now as a mother?
  8. What do you do as a freelance writing mentor?
  9. Why and how did you start as a freelance writing mentor?
  10. Can you tell us about one or two of your mentees’ success stories?
  11. How can our viewers connect with you?
  12. We got to know each other because you attended the Growth Summit 2018. Can you tell us about your experience there?
  13. From an attendee of the previous Growth Summits, you will now be one of the session speakers. What can they expect from your session entitled How to Start Your Freelance Writing Side Gig?

Join us in this conversation:

We invite you to join us at the Online Growth Summit on July 11. Charlyn will be speaking about How to Start Your Freelance Writing Side Gig. We have invited other speakers like Dodong Cacanando, a former HP Executive now businessman-farmer, Iloisa Diga of Session Groceries will speak about How to Spot Business Opportunities and Adjust During Crisis, and many more. Sign up now at http://bit.ly/growthph2020

FACING THE TURBULENCE – Interview with PHILIPP INNO, Finalist of The Final Pitch on CCN Philippines

“Get tired of just being inspired, be the inspiration.” – PHILIPP INNO

Last Tuesday, we launched the Growth Conversations interview series. In this first episode, we sat down with PHILIPP INNO, the T-HOUSE Founder, a Filipino Innovator-Entrepreneur, and one of the Finalists of the reality TV Show The Final Pitch on CNN Philippines.

Our topic centered on FACING THE TURBULENCE with the Power of Concepts, Community and Coachability.

I asked him these questions:

  1. You just won a 3M deal with Investor-Judge Victor Consunji in The Final Pitch on CNN Philippines, how does it feel?
  2. When you have your initial pitch, did you think you could reach this far?
  3. Before we talk about the concept, how important is a concept to entrepreneurs? How important is this to the show/competition (The Final Pitch)? How important is having a concept or a vision to individuals listening to us right now?
  4. So, what is this concept that you have? What’s your vision of the T-HOUSE Movement?
  5. Every time you speak on the show, I seem to notice a recurring pattern – movement, community. What’s the community you are building? Why is this important? To individuals listening to us right now, how does this apply to them?
  6. I noticed a huge improvement in your final pitch compared to the initial pitch, how did this happen? Who coached you? Who mentored you? What are your key learnings from them – in entrepreneurship/business, in pitching/presentation, in life in general?
  7. Were you always coachable? Why do you think? If not, what made the change?
  8. Who are the people who influenced you the most? What’s their greatest influence on you?
  9. How important is coachability?
  10. As people face this crisis, what message would you like to share with the community? To entrepreneurs facing turbulence now, what will you tell them?
  11. What do you consider is your greatest accomplishment so far? What do we expect from PHILIPP INNO in the next five to ten years?
  12. Closing Words

Join us in this conversation!

“Get tired tired just being inspired, be the inspiration.”

PHILIPP INNO

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Do You Want to Write a Book?

How many times have you said, “I will write a book?”

You have a message that you want to share with the world. You have a story that can inspire people. You have ideas, experiences, and life lessons that help empower members of your company, organizations, and community.

You have a book in you. Only, it wasn’t written yet!

I’m here to help you make that book come alive. Who am I?

My name is Chris Dao-anis, an inspirational speaker, leadership trainer, speech coach, and a book coach. With your permission, I can help you turn your book into a reality so you can become the author that you want to be. This year, you have the potential to go from pondering to published.

And why should you write a book?

This book could help promote your business, build your credibility in your profession, bring in new clients, and be of contribution to the community. You want to deliver value to the people you serve.

You can also earn additional income from book sales. You can even turn your book into a digital product like an ebook and audio book. In times of home quarantine like where we are now, we need to look at other possibilities online and this is one of these.

If you are a speaker, trainer, freelancer, or entrepreneur, your book can help establish your credibility in your field.

If you are a teacher or a professional who needs to earn CPD units, your book can earn you some credits.

In short, your book can help you and can help other people.

So why haven’t you written your book yet?

Maybe you’re waiting for the right time. When will that come?

Maybe you don’t think you have what it takes. Who can give you permission?

Maybe you don’t know how to begin. Or maybe you have started something but got stuck somewhere. Who am I to write anyway?

Maybe you are thinking, “What if I write this book but no one will read it?”

But despite all these questions, your heart is telling you, “You must write a book.”

And why should you? It is because…

If you will not write that book right now, then when will you?

If you will not write that book right now, how many people will continue to be deprived of your message?

If you will not write that book right now, will you just look back one day when you’re old and regret not writing your book?

Don’t let that happen to you. Stop your what-if’s and start acting.

Let me share with you how I went from pondering to published.

I’ve always wanted to write a book. As a young boy, I dreamt of becoming an author. I thought I needed to grow so wise and old until I get to become a published author. I didn’t know when it will happen.

Util one day, I learned about the truths about book writing and publishing, and came across a process to help me do so, my dream of becoming an author turned into a reality.

I became an author at the age of 25. Now, I’m 32 with five (5) books under my name.

It took me three years to write my first book, three weeks to write my second book, one year to write my third book, four weeks to write my fourth book, and one week to write my fifth book.

These books have helped me achieve my desire to be of contribution to my clients and to the community. It helped me influence my readers to become better individuals – sharing how they can grow in their career, in their competence and confidence, in their communication and leadership skills, in their life as a whole.

Incidentally, this also helped me establish more credibility as a speaker and trainer, leading me to serve more clients, and earn more income. But more so, it is being able to live your mission and helping other people live better lives.

A Proven Process Will Help You Become an Author This Year

Once you understand the industry and put a proven process to work, your dream of writing and publishing a book will come true. And you can decide when to launch your next book!

Do you want to become an author this year? It is possible.

But the question is, “Will you take action?”

Let me share with you three important ingredients to turn your book into a reality:

1. Perspective

You need to have the right mindset and understanding.

Mindset 1. You become an author because you want to serve your readers.

Mindset 2. You become an author because you want to contribute to the community.

Mindset 3. You become an author because you have a message, and you care about how that message will help your audience.

Understanding 1. You don’t need to be of old age to write a book.

Understanding 2. You don’t need a degree in writing to write a book. (A degree can surely help. Degree holders in creative writing has that as their advantage but it is not a requirement. In fact, many author I know don’t have a degree in writing.)

Understanding 3. You don’t need to perfect grammar or become a grammar master to write a book. (Of course, less mistakes in grammar would be better for you and your editor and proofreader.)

2. Piece

This is your material, the content of your book.

Your piece comes from experience and expertise. So if you want to write a book but don’t know which topic, you can start from here:

Experience:

  • what struggles have you overcome
  • what journey have you gone through that can be relevant to others

Expertise

  • what body of knowledge have you mastered
  • what skillset have you gained expertise in
  • what area have you studied and did extensive research in
  • what framework have you developed as a result of your learning and experience
  • what strategies or steps have helped you and other people gain results

Tip: What books do you usually read? What are those that inspires you the most? What are those that attract you?

Those could speak something about your piece, your material, your content.

3. Process

You need a system and a writing program to help you to make it easier.

Process makes work easier, the same is true with your writing.

In my previous work, I was assigned in Process Improvement. I understand the importance of knowing how things will flow – you will be able to remove unnecessary tasks and focus on the tasks that give value, that give results. It will also help you make you finish your job faster.

In my journey of writing five books so far, and now working on my sixth, I was able to develop a process and a writing program that you can also use to make it easier.

A book coach can help you understand this system and implement it so you can turn your ideas into a book.

You will also be helped in developing a writing program that will suit your schedule and personality so that in time, you can become the author that you want to be this year.

If you want to be coached in writing and publishing your book, email me at info@chrisdaoanis.com

How to Stay Ready to Speak, Minimize Your Pause-Fillers, and Own Your Presentation

What are your burning questions when it comes to public speaking?

In this post, you will gain the insights I shared to four of the questions sent to us on Facebook.

Question 1 (from Romarc Igualdo Guyon)

How public is public speaking?

It can be as public as it gets.

You might be speaking to a small audience or large audience. You might be speaking to five people, fifty people, or five hundred people.

Public speaking happens in many occasions – from formal to informal events. Campaign. Press briefing. Assemblies. Lectures. Trainings. Conferences. Graduation. Funeral. Weddings. Birthdays. Fiestas.

That’s a warm up question I guess. So we proceed to the next question.

Question 2 (from Tin Dao-anis)

What is the simplest strategy in order to deliver a compelling speech when asked on the spot?

I was listening to Craig Valentine, a World Champion Public Speaking. He shared that having a title World Champion of Public Speaking is both a blessing and a curse.

On his flight going back home after the World Championship of Public Speaking, a woman noticed the gigantic trophy he was carrying. She saw the label. It reads, “World Champion of Public Speaking.”

The woman goes, “Wow! World Champion of Public Speaking. Hmmm, come on, say something, say something!”

People would always ask him to say something. Almost every single time. He learned the lesson not to get ready to speak but to STAY READY TO SPEAK.

In a smaller scale, I have experienced what he experienced (not with the world champ trophy). But there are events where people, knowing that I’m a speaker and trainer, would ask me to say something. It is challenging but I have to strive to stay ready to speak. I’m still learning.

So in occasions when you are asked to speak and you are not prepared, the key is to stand up, speak up, and shut up. You don’t have to take much time. Just say sensible words. May it be some words of congratulations, words of sympathy, or words of thanks. Or maybe some relevant information or words of inspiration.

You can stand up and share a story that makes sense. You can share a recent experience and share the lesson you learned from that experience.

You can also stand up and share what you felt in that occasion.

Just be real. Be sincere. And I repeat. Stand up, speak up, and shut up.

Before we leave this question, here are three ways to prepare or stay ready:

1. Keep the practice of writing or journaling. Writing about your experiences, insights, and learnings on paper makes you remember them even more. When the occasion calls you to use them, use them.

When you write something, you will be able to structure it well and even clarify what’s the point, lesson, or message it brings. When the occasion demands, pull that out from your memory and deliver it.

2. Practice sharing your experiences and stories with your family and friends. You can also join Toastmasters and always participate in the Table Topic Session or Impromptu Speaking Session. That will exercise your muscle in impromptu speaking.

3. Prepare beforehand. When you are on your way to an event and you have that feeling that they will ask you to say something, prepare what you can possibly say while on the way.

Question 3 (from Margie C. Thomas)

How can I overcome the tendency to say ‘um, uh’? This is what I always utter when I’m running out of words. Is there a possibility to control this expression?

The reason why we say, ‘um, uh’ and other pause fillers or verbalized pauses is because we are thinking of what to say next. It’s like the mind is catching up with the mouth. And since the thought or idea is not up and clear yet, we utter those sounds ‘um, uh.’ It may be that the speaker forgot what to say next or pehaps the speaker is so nervous or preoccupied with other things.

So here are three prescriptions:

1. Presence

One of the reasons is preoccupation. Meaning, the speaker is not fully present. Hence, you have to make sure that you are there in that moment, in that place, for the occasion, for the audience. You must be present – mind, body, and soul.

You can do some breathing exercises and mindfulness exercises. (We will elaborate this in another post.) And yes, prayer helps.

2. Preparation

Prepare. Prepare. Prepare. Included in the preparation is practice. If you are well prepared, you know your material. If you internalized it and you’ve been practicing the delivery, the less likely that you will forget some lines and the less likely that you will utter many ‘ums and uhs’.

Also, proper preparation will help you to be more present.

3. Pauses

One of the odd reasons why speakers utter pause fillers is because they are uncomfortable with silence. Note that pauses are important when delivering speeches.

You pause to prepare to say a punch line or something important.

You pause for a while to let the audience absorb what you just said.

You pause to breathe in and transition.

You pause to prepare and clarify in your mind what you are about to say.

All these will come with proper practice, evaluated experience, and coaching.

Question 4. (from Verne Jules Cabading)

When I’m presenting a project that I only had a small part in or a topic I didn’t come up with, it feels like I don’t own it, so I lose confidence in talking about it. How can I own the presentation or at least be confident in presenting it?

Brilliant question. And the answer is in the question. The key word is OWNERSHIP. If you have a small or no participation in a material you are delivering, you will not be as confident as you are in a material that you yourself have prepared.

The cause of the problem is LACK OF OWNERSHIP, so the solution is to TAKE OWNERSHIP.

This can be approached in two different stages.

Before Completion Stage. Based on your experience, you can anticipate events or projects in which you will mostly be asked to present. Hence, take the necessary effort to participate in it, the preparation of which, so there will be a SENSE OF OWNERSHIP.

After Completion Stage. What if you had no way to anticipate it and they only asked you to present it when it was already done? This is more challenging, but you can still OWN it.

Ask yourself, “Can I customize the content and structure?”

I can still remember that moment when my teacher approached me and said, “Chris, you will deliver the welcome remarks. Here’s the speech.” That was two days before our high school graduation day. They wanted me to deliver a speech that someone else prepared. (Actually, I don’t remember how many days I had but to me, it seemed like I just had two days.) Yikes! I would have wanted to write my own speech and deliver it. But that was not the case.

The task of preparing the speech was not given to me beforehand because they didn’t know yet the ranking of the honor list. That was my assumption! So being the good boy that I am, I just said, “Yes, ma’am.”

Now, I had to make it my own. I had no time and could not customize or change the content and structure. But I could customize the style and delivery by OWNING it. How? Rehearsal and repetition. I kept practicing it. In my mind and out loud. I internalized it.

When the ceremony came, I stood on stage and delivered the opening remarks with confidence, ownership, and sincerity.

So again, if you cannot customize the material, jump into your rehearsal mood and internalize it.

What if you can customize the content and structure? Much better.

In a community that I was serving at, there were occasions when I would be asked to preach or speak because the preacher or speaker had to attend an equally important event. In that particular community, there is a standard material that is being downloaded coming from the main preacher (the founder).

You cannot change the main message but you can change or customize the examples. You can use your own stories to make it personal. You can tweak the structure a bit. And that’s what I did.

The message is not mine, but some of the examples and stories are mine. From there, I would practice it and internalize it – having that SENSE OF OWNERSHIP and SENSE OF PARTICIPATION.

With the grace of God, I was able to deliver the message well.

The other aspect of this question is PRIDE, and thus, will be addressed by HUMILITY. I believe this is not you, but some people might say they don’t like to deliver what’s not theirs. But what if that’s your job. Then do it.

Having that humility to accept your role, your level of participation in certain endeavors, your role in the greater scheme of things. Accept it and do what you can. Take the stage. Own it. And deliver what you are meant to deliver.

In Closing

Learn to stay ready to speak.

Minimize pause fillers by being present, prepared, purposefully use pause.

And take ownership of your presentation.

If you have public speaking questions, feel free to post it on the comments sections. Don’t forget to share this to a friend in need.

If you need speech coaching, email me at info@chrisdaoanis.com.

PS. Join me in this Public Speaking Series for FREE. See details below.

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Give Us This Day Our Daily Bread

While I was cooking our late breakfast this morning, I heard the roaring sound of a helicopter. I looked outside and there it was slowly moving in the blue sky. Is it going to deliver some relief goods to a nearby town? Is it going to deliver a VIP somewhere nearby? I didn’t know.

I went back to the kitchen and as the roaring sound started to fade in the background, I remembered what we used to do as little kids in the town of Kibungan.

Everytime we hear a roaring sound of the helicopter, we would look up and locate where it was. And run toward the wide space at the back of the church where choppers used to land. While running, we would be shouting, “Umyakayo’s tinapay! Umyakayo’s tinapaay! Umyakayo’s tinapaaay!” (Give us some bread! Give us some breaad! Give us some breaaad!) The neighborhood would be filled by those words we were shouting at the top of our voices with passion and excitement. We were hopefuls!

Those running and shouting toward the direction of the helicopter were inspired by stories of our man-manong (older brothers). They would tell us, “Ammo yo ed idi, ad-adu di manlan-landing ed isdi Madagem. Yan enkami ilan. Yan mayat tan inumya da si tinapay. (You know, in the recent past, there were several helicopters landing there in Madagem. We would go and see. And it was good because they gave us some bread.) I didn’t know the veracity of the story but it seemed true because it wasn’t only me who heard the story, but also the other kids in the neighborhood did. Hence, everytime we hear those roaring sounds, the united move was to run and shout those precious words, “Umyakayo’s tinapay.” (Give us some bread!)

No fail. Everytime a roaring sound of a helicopter is heard, we would run and shout, “Umyakayo’s tinapay!” (Give us some bread!) We were consistent.

But the experience was consistent as well. Not a single one of those roaring helicopters would land. Never. None at all.

Yet everytime a roaring sound of a helicopter is heard, we would run and shout, “Umyakayo’s tinapay!” (Give us some bread!) At the top of our voices, with passion and excitement. We were hopefuls. (At least, until we knew better.)

And while I was serving the simple breakfast I prepared this morning, I saw an image of those little children running and shouting, with high hopes that they will receive bread from whoever is in that flying object. Even if they never experienced one before, they were still filled with hope, excitement, and expectation.

I paused. I thought, “Do we also have that hope, excitement, and expectation when we ask for something these days?”

“Do I have that hope, excitement, and expectation when I pray to the Father, ‘Give us this day our daily bread.’?”

“Do I?”

I paused a little while and whispered, “Give us this day our daily bread.” That moment, I trusted. I hoped. I expected. I smiled with excitement.

This COVID19 Crisis Situation has disturbed us. It disrupted our normal routine, our work, our jobs, our businesses.

While we observe how Mother Earth is breathing these days (which I am thankful for), we also see the other side of the picture. Last night, I saw a Facebook post of someone raising funds for his friends who lost their source of income. Another post shared how he had to accept a much lower pay than usual for a project he was doing. Two weeks ago, I was told about someone on the other side of the world who had to move to another state because the restaurant they were working in closed down.

We are facing a crisis.

But in the midst of this crisis situation, may we still stay hopeful. Believing THAT THIS TOO SHALL PASS. That better days are coming.

And that as we go through this, we must grow through it. So we also take the time to equip ourselves. To learn new skills, to enhance what we already have, and to master what we do best. Still with hope, excitement, and expectation.

New days are coming. A new beginning is brewing.

Let us have what those innocent little children had. Let us run with excitement. Let us shout with hope and expectation. And as you whisper to pray to our Father, say it with all your heart…

“Our Father in heaven

Holy be your name

Your kingdom come

Your will be done on earth as it is in heaven

Give us this day our daily bread

And forgive us our sins

As we forgive those who sin against us

Do not bring us to the test

But deliver us from evil. Amen.”

“For Yours is the kingdom, the power, and the glory now and forever. Amen.”

With a smile on your face and hope in your heart, whisper this, for you and for other people, “Umyakayo’s tinapay.”

The Lord you are praying to is not a helicopter by the way. He is a Father. He listens. He provides. He loves.

Is It Your Dream to Write a Book?

How many times have you said, “I will write a book.”

You have a message that you want to share to the world. You have a story that can inspire people. You have ideas, experiences, and life lessons that help empower members of your company, organizations, and community.

You have a book in you. Only, it wasn’t written yet!

This book could help promote your business, build your credibility in your profession, bring in new clients, and be of contribution to the community. You want to deliver value to the people you serve.

So why haven’t you written your book yet?

Maybe you’re waiting for the right time. When will that come?

Maybe you don’t think you have what it takes. Who can give me permission?

Maybe you don’t know how to begin. Or maybe you have started something but got stuck somewhere. Who am I to write anyway?

Maybe you are thinking, “What if I write this book but no one will read it?”

But despite all these questions, your heart is telling you, “You must write a book.”

Why not write that book right now?

If you will not write that book right now, then when will you?

If you will not write that book right now, how many people will continue to be deprived of your message?

If you will not write that book right now, will you just look back one day when you’re old and regret not writing your book?

Don’t let that happen to you. Stop your what-if’s and start acting.

It’s time to go from PONDERING to PUBLISHED!

I’ve always wanted to write a book. I dreamt of becoming an author. I thought needed to grow so wise and old until I get to become a published author. I didn’t know when it will happen.

Until one day, I learned about the truths about book writing and publishing, and came across a process to help me do so, my dream of becoming an author turned into a reality.

Author of Five Books to Date

I became an author at the age of 25. Now I’m 32 with five (5) books under my name.

  • It took me three years to write my first book,
  • three weeks to write my second book,
  • one year to write my third book,
  • four weeks to write my fourth book, and
  • one week to write my fifth book.
Contribution and Credibility, Influence and Income

These books have helped me achieve my desire to be of contribution to my clients and to the community. It helped me influence my readers become better individuals – sharing how they can grow in their career, in their competence and confidence, in their communication and leadership skills, in their life as a whole.

Incidentally, this also helped me establish more credibility as a speaker and trainer, leading me to serve more clients, and earn more income. But more so, it is being able to live your mission and helping other people live better lives.

A Proven Process Will Help You Become an Author this Year

Once you understand the industry and put a proven process to work, your dream of writing and publishing a book will come true. And you can decide when to launch your next book!

Do you want to become an author this year? It is possible.

But the question is, “Will you take action?”

I’m serious in helping you make your dream of writing a book a reality. I’m offering a FREE BOOK WRITING INTRODUCTORY SESSIONS starting April 15, 2020 via Facebook Live on our Private Group: https://bit.ly/bookwritingph

Join our Facebook Group at https://bit.ly/bookwritingph to gain access to the FREE BOOK WRITING INTRODUCTORY SESSIONS.

Why You Should Suspend Judgment

You could see people walking around pushing their carts. (Luzon was put on Enhanced Community Quarantine just the night before.) There I was heading to the cashier to pay for the groceries I got. There were four lines, the shortest one was on the right. With excitement, I dashed towards it. The sign read, “Lane for senior citizens, PWDs, and privilege cardholders only.” I sighed. I found the tail of the other line at the corner of the supermarket.

I lined up and patiently waited. Thirty minutes. One hour. Two hours. I counted those before me, I was the 20th customer in line. “Almost there!” I said to myself.

While we were moving forward, I noticed something strange. “How did that happen? Two hours ago, I lined up at the end of the regular lane. Why am I here in the senior citizen lane?” The other customers seem to be asking the same thing. But having waited for more than two hours, we might have a similar thought, “Is it proper that they move us to the other lane?”

Some of the guards and staff learned about the mix-up. They seem to understand so they did not bother asking us to transfer.

Then a woman of senior age walked in, approached the guard and began complaining, “Why are these people in ‘our’ lane?” The guard explained, “We can give you a spot here but please understand that these people have been here the entire morning.” Still, she insisted and continued to complain.

In the quietness of my mind, a whisper came, “But they shouldn’t be here either. Senior citizens and pregnant women should be staying at home at this time.” I was ready to verbalize my argument. Thankfully, my face mask prevented me. I paused. I kept silent. I looked around. There were other senior citizens. There were many customers – young and old.

And a voice within said, “What if they were the only ones in their household? What if nobody is with them that they themselves have to go out? What if nobody else will do it for them?” The truth is – I didn’t know their situation.

My friend, do you tend to judge quickly? Have you done something foolish because of this?

That day I was reminded to suspend judgment. When we suspend judgment, we give ourselves the opportunity to think better and respond appropriately.

When we suspend judgment, we give ourselves the opportunity to think better and respond appropriately.

Angels Among Us

01.14.20 We just attended the priestly ordination of Fr. Ariel in Kibungan and we were driving (rushing) back to Baguio to be in time for an appointment that afternoon at 3.

The clock read, 2:15. “We can make it,” I whispered.

While we were about to approach a curve, “Pooof!!!”

It was loud. It was sudden. It was quick. No warnings or whatsoever.

“Thank God, we have a spare tire.” But no, it was not the tire.

“What was it?” my wife asked.

I looked ahead and saw something like a smoke coming out from under the hood. But it was not smoke. I didn’t know what type of gas.

Thank God, we were nearing a bend of the road so we were slowing down. I pulled over, opened the hood, and tried to check what happened.

Oh well, I got credentials. I am a Certified Public Accountant and a Distinguished Toastmaster. I had some years of meaningful experience… BUT NO, I AM NOT AN AUTO-MECHANIC.

I tried to locate what may look unusual which might have caused that gas coming out. But I could not see one.

I kept on looking. Still, I could not see one.

So instead of looking under the hood, I started to look outside. “Any passersby?”

One vehicle was coming, I signaled for help. But nobody from them could give help.

Another vehicle came, I signaled for help. He said he had to go “there” somewhere first and then come back in case he could give help.

Another vehicle came. The person in front waved at me. She knew me. I waved back at her. And they passed by.

“Hmmm, let me call someone who knew what might have gone wrong.”

While I was about to call, I heard someone call my name and asked, “What went wrong?”

Oh, they did not just pass by. They parked a few meters ahead and came back.

I replied, “I don’t know but it must be something in here. Maybe “he” knows this stuff…?”

“Oh yes, he’s there… coming.”

Her partner, who was driving, came. I told him the details.

“Ok, let’s check!”

He tried to look under the hood. “Hmmm, I could not see anything,” he said.

“Do you want me to start the engine so you can see where the gas will come out?”

“Hmmm that’s… uh…. ok… go.”

“Alright. Here we go!”

I was about to switch it on…

“Wait! Don’t start it. I saw it.”

Then he showed it to me.

“Do you have something to replace that part?”

“Oh sorry, I don’t have.”

“Well, we can temporarily replace that with a screw. Let me get one here.”

As he walked to his van, someone called me (the one who I was trying to call earlier). I told him what happened and what we were about to do. Then he said, “Oh good, that thing came out. Remember the one I gave you before, that thing should replace it.”

“Oh yes, I do remember that. Let me get it then.”

When the ‘hero of the hour’ came back, I handed him that ‘thing’ – and said, “This should replace that part, right? It’s called…”

“Oh yes, that should work.”

He got his tools. Did what mechanics do and replaced the thing.

“It should work now,” he said.

I switched on the engine. No other unusual sound. No more gas coming out. Things are back. Working. Normal.

“Thank youuuu so muuuuuch. Imbag ta adda kayo.” (It’s good you came.)

He smiled at me and said casually, “Talaga nga kasta ti lugan nga tumartaray.” ‘No big deal. That stuff happens.’

He did not ask for anything. I did not know if I should pay him cash.

How do I pay back his kindness?

While fixing the tools, a thought came to mind. I asked my wife, who was there so supportive, patient, and calm, to hand them a small something just to express our sincere thanks. (It wasn’t money.) They received it with a smile.

We got back to our own rides and continued driving to where we were heading. My wife and I managed to catch our appointment and did what must be done.

I don’t know what could have happened if they were not there driving on that same road at that same hour on that same day.

But experiences like this continue to tell me that there are angels among us. That God sends people who will help us. That God sends people to demonstrate his love, his kindness, his power.

He loves us so much and he continues to show it in small and great ways.

And experiences like this also continue to tell me that people, children of God, are here present and alive.

This is an experience of love. And I shall say, “Thank you for the love.”

Salamat unay. Salamat apo.


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